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He is one of the greatest and most underrated actors of his generation, and indeed any generation.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Off-screen, he keeps to himself, lives with strict discipline, avoids technology, and follows a life of quiet routines.<\/strong><\/p>\n

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And try not to smile when you see this \u201980s heartthrob \u2014 who, believe it or not, has turned 65!<\/strong><\/p>\n

James Spader is the personification of class, cool guy and a fantastic actor. Over the years, this Hollywood star has proven to be a perfect example of handling curiosity, insincerity, and rudeness with grace, elegance, and character.<\/p>\n

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As one fan once put it: \u201cJames Spader is the only actor that can make me sh*t my pants and make me feel loved at the same time with his characters.\u201d<\/p>\n

Born in Boston to a family of teachers, he decided to forge his own path rather than follow the family\u2019s academic expectations (both his sisters became teachers).<\/p>\n

At 17, Spader left the prestigious Phillips Academy and moved to New York City, where he chased a full-time acting career while supporting himself through a mix of jobs. Spader worked as a bartender, yoga teacher, drove a meat truck, loaded railroad cars, and worked as a stable hand.<\/p>\n

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Brooke Shields and James Spader circa 1981 in New York City. (Sonia Moskowitz\/IMAGES\/Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Yoga would play a big role in Spader\u2019s life, because that was where he first crossed paths with Victoria Kheel, a certified yoga instructor. What began as a friendship eventually grew into romance, and after almost ten years together, they got married and had two sons.<\/p>\n

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Spader\u2019s first notable role came in the 1981 romantic drama\u00a0Endless Love<\/em>, where he played\u00a0Brooke Shields<\/a>\u2019s brother. He gained wider recognition in 1986 as the wealthy, arrogant playboy Steff in the iconic \u201880s film\u00a0Pretty in Pink<\/em>.<\/p>\n

From there, his career expanded with a mix of television movies and appearances in Brat Pack films. He earned the Best Actor award at Cannes for Steven Soderbergh\u2019s debut film\u00a0Sex, Lies, and Videotape<\/em>, and the following year, starred in the steamy drama\u00a0White Palace<\/em>\u00a0alongside Susan Sarandon.<\/p>\n

Arguably, James\u2019s most memorable role is Alan Shore, the ethically ambiguous lawyer in David E. Kelley\u2019s legal series\u00a0The Practice<\/em>\u00a0and\u00a0Boston Legal<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Veteran writer-producer David E. Kelley recalled facing pushback when he initially tried to cast Spader, saying, \u201cI was told that no one would ever welcome James Spader into their living room.\u201d<\/p>\n

But it was a success. From 2004 to 2008, he won three Primetime Emmy Awards for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Drama Series and earned nominations for a Golden Globe as well as several Screen Actors Guild Awards.<\/p>\n

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James Spader in \u2018Pretty in Pink\u2019 in 1986. (Photo by Michael Ochs Archives\/Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

With his polished charm and keen intellect, he navigated 1980s Hollywood with ease. Yet, unlike friends such as Robert Downey Jr. and Eric Stoltz, who dived headfirst into the decade\u2019s wild lifestyle, he kept to the sidelines, prioritizing his craft and family over the allure of fame.<\/p>\n

In a Playboy interview, when asked whether women ever approached him in public, the 1980s heartthrob replied, \u201dNot particularly. I\u2019ve been very successful keeping a private face on things, even out in public.\u201d<\/p>\n

He went on, \u201dIf you\u2019re recognizable and you want to draw people to you in public, you can do that. I don\u2019t. If people put their lives in the public eye a lot, people feel as if they\u2019ve gotten to know them through the media. I try not to open the door to my private life in a public way.\u201d<\/p>\n

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His avoidance of technology reflects his distance from the spotlight. Spader once said that he doesn\u2019t own a computer or any modern gadgets.<\/p>\n

\u201dI have no computer, no electronics in my life. I have this broken phone. It rings, I\u2019ll flip it open and the act of doing that shuts the phone off,\u201d he explained. Even his sons \u2014 then 16 and 20 \u2014 weren\u2019t impressed.<\/p>\n

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Additionally, Spader has been candid about a persistent aspect of his life: obsessive-compulsive disorder. \u201dI\u2019m obsessive-compulsive,\u201d he shared in a 2014 interview. \u201dI have very, very strong obsessive-compulsive issues. I\u2019m very particular.\u201d<\/p>\n

In 2004, James and Victoria divorced. Soon after, the actor began a low-key, long-term relationship with actress and sculptor Leslie Stefanson. The two even shared the screen in the sci-fi thriller\u00a0Alien Hunter<\/em>, which centers on the discovery of a mysterious alien black box in the South Pole, where a government agency is conducting secret botanical experiments.<\/p>\n

The couple resides in New York City and welcomed their son Nathaneal Spader in 2008.<\/p>\n

James on fatherhood later in life<\/strong><\/h2>\n

James has spoken openly about becoming a father at a later stage in life. In a 2012 interview on\u00a0Anderson<\/em>, the actor looked back on becoming a father for the third time at nearly 50, admitting he had no doubts about having another child. He noted that the only noticeable change this time was that he was \u201dslower.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201dYou do have a different perspective, I\u2019m not sure what it is yet because I\u2019m so subjective but you really do,\u201d he said. \u201dI think also the reasons to take you out of your home or be away from him are different.\u201d<\/p>\n

During the isolation of the pandemic, James found small joys in being a dad. In an interview with Jimmy Fallon, he recalled, \u201dMy youngest son, my 12-year-old, we\u2019d go out and line up beer cans on the big rock out on the far end of the garden and shoot at them with BB guns.\u201d<\/p>\n

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When it comes to one of the most recent public photos of Spader, it actually dates back to 2023 \u2014 when he was spotted on the set of\u00a0The Blacklist<\/em>\u00a0in New York on February 16, 2023.<\/p>\n

But in 2025, James Spader surfaced again \u2014 this time almost unrecognizable \u2014 after being photographed at Tara Summers\u2019 wedding, held at her father Martin Summers\u2019 home in Morocco. Do you recognize him?<\/p>\n

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